Do you plan to sit around forever fawning over your crush? How well is that working out for you? The longer you wait is the closer your window of opportunity gets to closing completely. You need to shoot your shot, so lets show you how to shoot your shot!
Okay, admittedly, this is a lot easier said than done. It’s one of those things where you just have to rip the band aid off and get it over with. Let’s not get this twisted though. Knowing how to shoot your shot is an art and making the wrong step may ruin your chances forever (no pressure).
If you’re not up to date with internet lingo, no biggie. We’ll detour from teaching you how to shoot your shot for a sec, and explain what all this means
What Does It Mean To ‘Shoot Your Shot’?
The phrase “shoot your shot’’ is generally used by late millennials or early Gen Z-ers. It means the exact same thing as flirting or courting, but more aggressively. In other words, you have to let your guards down, and go for it. Put caution to the wind and say exactly how you feel.
Let’s pretend you’re a basketball player. For your team to win, you must score more baskets than the other team. You can dribble the ball all you want, but if you don’t shoot your shot, you’ll never score. Worse yet, there are other players on the other team trying to score as well.
Now take that analogy and apply it to your dating life. Chances are, you are not your crush’s only suitor. If you continue to dribble and never shoot your shot, someone else will, and they’ll win.
Why You Should Shoot Your Shot
If you’re shy, shooting your shot is probably the last thing on your mind. You probably have a one-year plan of a cautious approach, but face it, it’s been a while and it isn’t working.
Shooting your shot is a great idea because people generally respect and admire a man that is confident. It takes a special type of person to say exactly how they feel, and that’s a quality many women look for in a partner. It’s an indication of what she can expect from a potential relationship with you.
You also save yourself wasted time and energy if she doesn’t feel the same way. Imagine executing an intricate plan to win her over, only to be rejected in the end?
If you don’t shoot your shot, or hesitate, you might miss out on a really great partner. Even if she has similar feelings, you can’t expect her to wait around forever until you figure out how to shoot your shot.
How To Shoot Your Shot: The Tools To Success
Now that that bit is out of the way, let’s get down to the meat of the matter: shooting your shot.
What we’re about to share with you are the only tools you’ll need to leave a lasting impression and increase your chances of landing a date.
Slide into those DM’s (Online)
If your crush is on your socials, slide in those DMs!
This requires a strong approach because chances are, others are doing the same thing. Instead of overthinking, start to think about how you can stand out.
Don’t be weird and send a nude, or tap hearts under every post. Make your crush notice you first.
Pay attention to what she says, such as interests and dislikes. When you see something that coincides with yours, engage in a conversation about it.
This natural approach won’t make your crush feel awkward. Once you’ve planted your seeds, shoot your shot!
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Stop Overthinking & Just do it
Admit it. You’re guilty of overthinking, otherwise, you wouldn’t be here reading this.
Overthinking is a form of self-sabotage. You wonder and ponder if you should make your move, and in that wasted time, your crush will slip right through your fingers.
Channel that negative energy into action. Get out of your own head and confess how you feel whether in person or online. Your crush can’t read your mind, and overthinking is torture!
Assess then Attack (In-person)
If you see the person on a daily basis, it makes sense to shoot your shot in person.
So, take a minute to assess the situation to find an appropriate time to shoot your shot. There’s never a perfect moment, but there are definitely wrong moments.
- If you’re at school, don’t try to shoot your shot in class, or when your crush is busy prepping for finals. Avoid doing it when she is with friends or in a large crowd. Try to catch her alone, then make your move.
- If you’re at work, the best time isn’t when she’s working. Ask her to lunch, or to meet up after work for some drinks to unwind from the long workday. Then, shoot your shot.
- If she’s a complete stranger at a bar or at the park, then you have limited time to assess. You may even have to assess while you attack.
Start off with some small talk (no, not about the weather). Mention things you see around you or ask to buy her a drink or hotdog. Assess her reaction and responses, then attack accordingly.
Skip the high-school games
Your crush can’t read your mind, so why are you still playing those childish high-school cat-and-mouse games?
When shooting your shot, don’t beat around the bush or try to play mind games. Be yourself and make your feelings obvious.
If she shows interest, don’t play hard to get. Forget the nonsense you used to hear about waiting three days before texting back or pretending to be busy when you’re not.
Take the opening, shoot, and hopefully score!
Rejection is always a possibility
Remember that no one is obligated to you and there’s always the possibility you may get rejected. But that’s a part of life. You win some, and then you lose some.
Does that make you any less of a catch? Not at all. You just weren’t a match and there’s plenty of fish in the sea. Perhaps your fish will make you look back at this and laugh!
Outside of Dating
There’s a saying that goes “We miss all the shots we don’t take”, and that applies to all sectors of life, relationships, and otherwise.
Even though the term “shooting your shot” is generally associated with relationships and dating, you can use the same principles and mindset in your everyday life.
You can apply them to career opportunities, networking with people you admire, and perhaps even in dipping your toes into the pool of entrepreneurship.
Remember, the perfect moment does not exist
Shooting your shot primarily involves the ability to self-evaluate yourself, the environment, and the level of risk involved all the while making the move.
Stop overthinking and come up with an actionable strategy, whether it is online or in person. Forget the outdated high-school dating games and tell her how you feel.
There’s no such thing as the perfect moment. Just avoid all the wrong ones and more importantly, be yourself.
Sure, rejection is always a possibility, but are you doing to let that stop you?
If you don’t shoot your shot, I guess we’ll never know!
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